The Three R’s

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I read the following in a local paper and thought I would share it. Simple message, and the 4th R I would add is Remember it!

Recognizing — recognizing the good, the good that is always present in our lives, all the things with which we are constantly blessed. See the cup as half full not empty.

Relating — trying to feel what others are feeling, empathizing. Try to see the world through the eyes of the other.

Reflecting — not reflecting as in thinking deeply about, though that is also important, but reflecting like a mirror- how our actions reflect on ourselves. Thinking about how we present ourselves to the world.

The opportunities are ubiquitous.

Receiving change from a cashier, a smile a “thank you” — leaves an impression.

On the road, where politeness is at a premium, driving politely leaves an impression.

The way we speak, the way we interact with others, all leave an impression.

We must strive to leave the right one.

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What If Challenge

“…You can go your whole life collecting days, and none will outweigh the one you wish you had back.”
~Mitch Albom-For One More Day

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While reading Mr Aewl’s blog today, I came across his What If Challenge.He asked, what if you could pick one day to relive, what day would you pick and why? Would it be to change things? Would it be to just enjoy a magical moment?

So I have been thinking about this, reading what other people have shared. Wedding days, engagements, births, but the post that stood out for me talked about changing past behavior, which would then change the moments that occurred in life. This rang true for me.

As I have gotten older I have worked hard to really look at “what makes me tick.” My interactions, reactions. My relationships with people around me- family, friends, co workers. I know I am a giving and caring person, a good friend, a good listener. But oh can I be quick to anger, impatient, become frustrated easily and blow my top. Some of it is how I am wired, some is learned behavior. But at the end of the day, it is up to me to change the behaviors that lead to problems with interacting with the people around me, if I want to function in a healthier manner within those relationships.

So back to What If….. if I had come to this self examination a little sooner in my life, perhaps I would not have been estranged from my sister for 6 years. Perhaps I would have had my mother in law over more before she died, perhaps I would not have yelled at the lady on the other end of the phone like that. This is not an exercise in regret, merely a realization that if I had come to understand myself better sooner, perhaps my reactions and actions and relationships would have been different.

The reality of the What If for me is that there are days and times in my life that I know for sure I would not want to revisit, but there is no specific day I would really want to “do over” either.  Sure, my wedding day was wonderful, other life events and milestones were meaningful, but I am thankful for the people I have in my life now. Where I am. And I hope to continue to be a “work in progress” so maybe in the coming days one day will stand out above the rest and become my What If day.  thankful-for-today