It’s Still Your Birthday, Even if You’re Gone

A post from last year on this date- posting it again in memory of my brother.

Today is my brother’s birthday. Or it would have been his birthday were he still alive, though I feel that just because he is gone does not make August 6th no longer his birthday. His age will forever remain at 54, but the date will forever be his birth date. He died by his own hand in February of 2015. I wrote about him on the first anniversary of his death here.He wasn’t married, had no children, and struggled so the last years of his life. Today I choose to remember him before all that, to think of him long ago before the demons set in. To remember him with rose colored glasses on, filtering out the sadness and anger. Remembering him with a smile.82802100-SLD-001-0015



Tell Me Something Good-Weekly Smile

A Momma’s View says: Let’s kick off this week on a positive note. By sharing something good, something that made you happy or you are looking forward to .

So I’ll combine Trent’s Weekly Smile along with a Momma’s View and share what made me happy and smiley this past week.

My niece became engaged! Actually she is my great niece, and a great niece she is! She just passed her Nursing Boards and a few days later became engaged. She calls herself the Nurse Bride now.

The family got together to celebrate, where a good time was had by all. I saw two of my other great nieces, whom I have written about before, one is the Bride’s sister, the other a cousin. They are both 15 and we always have fun when we get together. So next step is the upcoming wedding in September, time to go shopping for a dress!

Here’s the Bride to Be and her 3 sisters- they are a very close knit bunch. The Bride is 2nd from the right.and here are my other nieces, we never miss the opportunity to take a selfie when we’re together

Now it’s your turn to tell me something good, and what made you smile this week!

Remembering My Brother

I received a package from my sister last week filled with old photos that had been in old family albums. I wrote about it here. In among those photos were some of my brother that I had never seen before. Two years ago yesterday he died, taking his own life after struggling with mental issues for many years. Looking at the photos I was reminded of the person he was before he became so troubled, and the life he had lived. I was glad for the reminder, to remember him with a smile instead of  sadness.louis1978



If We Were Having Coffee….

I would invite you in because it is pretty chilly out there! The sky is clear blue, but it is deceiving when you step outside the door. I did go for an early morning walk spotting these early birds.. you know the saying…..

Two of our great nieces (they are cousins) came Friday morning to stay over as they have every Thanksgiving weekend for the past 7 years. We spend Friday shopping and getting frozen yogurt and going out for lunch. They are 15 years old now and I am glad they still look forward to coming even though they are teenagers. One of them told me she is “very into tradition” and loves that we have this weekend “tradition.” I was glad to hear it.

We even had some old time fun and stepped into a photo booth in the mall20161125_123630

Saturday night we went to a pottery painting place and allowed our creativity to flow- each of us painting and getting lost in our designs


Then it was off for more frozen yogurt and an end to the fun for this year. 20161126_2043460

Building relationships with my nieces is important to me – we keep in touch throughout the year but there is nothing like spending time alone with them. They know they are always welcome to share ideas or what is on their mind, and know that whatever they tell me stays with me. I have watched them grow from little girls into young women, encountering the difficulties that young girls face with friends, school and with family. They don’t need to explain any background- as I have known their mothers, my nieces, from the time they were teenagers too.

Now I need to get back to the reality of life, the laundry, the vacuuming and maybe a third cup of coffee- I hope you have enjoyed your weekend too!

Weekend Coffee Share 


Cee’s Share Your World

What is your favorite go to beverage?  Water, coffee, tea, coke, soda (non-alcoholic)

I need coffee first thing in the morning to get me going, and I usually have 2 more cups throughout the

I do drink water all day long, I try to drink four 16.9 ounce bottles a day.

Can you change a car tire?

NO way, no how, that is what I have AAA for. For those who don’t know, AAA is The American Automobile Association, a federation of motor clubs throughout North America. You join for a little over $100 and in the event of an issue with your car, you call, they come. Battery charging, flat tire etc. They also provide maps and years ago before google maps I would call and order a “triptik” a travel planner that mapped out your trip – with a marker- on a map.

Are you a listener or talker?

I am more of a listener. I can do my fair share of talking but overall I like to listen.

Would you rather have no internet or no cell phone?

No cell phone. I am definitely more attached to the internet than I am to my cell phone.

Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week?

Getting together for dinner with my aunts and uncles this week- all of whom are in their late 80’s and early 90’s. It is a blessing to still have the opportunity to do so. And my 89 year old is the one who made dinner!leni2016

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