It’s Still Your Birthday, Even if You’re Gone

Today is my brother’s birthday. Or it would have been his birthday were he still alive, though I feel that just because he is gone does not make August 6th no longer his birthday. His age will forever remain at 54, but the date will forever be his birth date. He died by his own hand in February of 2015. I wrote about him on the first anniversary of his death here.He wasn’t married, had no children, and struggled so the last years of his life. Today I choose to remember him before all that, to think of him long ago before the demons set in. To remember him with rose colored glasses on, filtering out the sadness and anger. Remembering him with a smile.82802100-SLD-001-0015

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35 thoughts on “It’s Still Your Birthday, Even if You’re Gone

  1. Yes, it is still his birthday. I remember my brothers on their birthdays also. As well as the anniversaries of their deaths. I wish you strength at this time. ❤

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  2. It will always be his day and his connection to you. Your heart and memories have no time limits. Your warmest and dearest memories are a testament to the relationship that you shared. How fortunate he is to be loved by you always. ❤

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  3. I struggle with the birthday of departed ones issue all the time. August 2nd would have been my brother’s 63rd birthday but instead, he’s been gone since 1982. I wish both our brothers could be here to celebrate, or at least mark, another burthday.

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  4. Losing a sibling would never be something you get over, Lisa. So sorry, especially when it is his birthday week, for not having him here.
    Not the same at all, but my Dad would have turned 84 if he had lived on July 31st. I was a little down due to this. Hugs, Robin
    PS. We worked 48 hours so am “running” as quick as I can through your lovely posts, Lisa. 🙂

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  5. It will always be his birthday and I am glad you celebrate this special day. I remember when you wrote about him for the first time; I could feel your heavy heart between the lines.

    All his struggles are over. I am glad you remember him the way he has been before.

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